That depends entirely on what your previous forward driving mode was. From the time you start your ID.4 until you shut down, any toggle between reverse and forward should go right back to the previously selected mode B or D. What the OP is asking though, is if it can be made default that the car switches first right to B instead of D right after start.
That would definitely go on the accident report as "driver error."
That sounds like a question for @VW TECHNICIAN. I do not know but my guess would be that it is possible. There are other settings in the infotainment that control hardware like the shade for the glass roof for example.
Yes, I understand that (and that many don't like it too). But a friend owns a 2012 Model S and his software has been updated so many times he's lost count and he says that Tesla does listen to it's customers and that a couple of software suggestions he's made have actually been adopted to the cars. I think owners of anything like to think that manufacturers are listening. If VW was listening to any of us, they surely would have told us something definitive about the promised 90 day software updates we haven't been seeing for the past 18 months or so
Yes with changing coding for specific module to remember last setting. VW departments are not authorized to change this but you can use obdeleven to make vehicles settings the way you want.
