I agree with the general sentiment already stated in this thread that after a period of adjustment, it would probably work out fine for both of you, and you’ll end up loving it. I believe that one of the best things to do to convince someone about going EV is to actually have them drive one. Once you own one, it may take some time to change your thinking and get out of the ICE mindset, but eventually you learn what the car can do, how often you need to charge it, and you adjust your behaviors around charging, maintenance, etc.
One other thing to keep in mind is that the current number of both Level 2 and DC fast chargers in your area is not likely to remain static in the coming years, but should only continue to grow. More DCFC stations are being built all the time, esp in the Northeast where EV ownership is being incentivized by state grants on top of federal tax credits. So making a decision based solely on the “charger anxiety” she has based on what’s there today might be skewing the decision toward the negative.